So you got dumped by your boyfriend or girlfriend and it doesn’t just hurt, it seems so very wrong. You may be wondering what happened. You did your best, but she decided to move on. Now that they are gone you want them back. With four easy steps we’ll help make sure you have a shot at winning your ex back.
Address what went wrong. Now it’s important not to dwell on the past or nitpick your every action during the relationship but you may need to consider possible problems that existed in the relationship. Did she leave because he thought you said ‘no more football’? Take some time about the best way to communicate. Did she dump you, because you did not stop downloading adult stuff from the net? Reconsider your leisure activities on the web.
Calm down and create distance. You need to know that persistence pushes someone away. Think about that shopping assistant that asked you if you needed help every two minutes. If you are overly anxious to win your ex back, you are that clerk. Desperation is unattractive and lessens your own self worth. It is a fact that human hearts are drawn to that which is rare. People like gold and take rocks for granted. You can easily turn yourself into gold by making yourself rare. Don’t disappear completely, but enjoy life and let him or her wonder what you are doing now.
Get a life and have fun. This step is all about you. Reflect on some aspects of your life that you have always wanted to improve. Perhaps it’s getting in shape or buying new clothes. Whatever it is, your motivation has to be for yourself. Do not do these things for the other person. Maybe you always wanted to learn an instrument or write a book. Just do it. Now is the right time to do all of those things you always wanted to do. The best part is that you will lead a full life and as a side benefit add to your desirability index.
Make friends. It sounds counter to everything you may have heard about dating but you should enter the friend zone. Your partner should be your friend. May be what went wrong initially was a lack of true, deepheartet understanding which a friendship requires. You need to be aware that a relationship that is based on emotional neediness or physical attraction is doomed for failure. For a strong relationship, a friendship is the best foundation.
Finally, remember that it takes two to tango. You cannot force someone to return. But if you build within yourself a strong sense of self worth and confidence you’ll at least have a chance at winning back your ex’s heart.