The chances are that you’ve found yourself interested in this article because you have begun to notice anger symptoms in yourself, or because loved ones have confessed their concern towards your “angry nature”. Everyone is different, and it’s natural for occasional instance to provoke a little anger in us–after all, we’re only human! But, there comes a time when we have to learn to harness the angry feelings when they are inappropriate. Learning to control and manage your anger symptoms will take some time, but we’re going to discuss a few tips to get you started.
Anger Problem Common Sign
First, let’s go over some of the common signs that suggest an “anger problem” is at hand. You may have noticed that you seem to get angry pretty easily, or that you get angry often, especially if it seems to happen on a daily basis. This is one of the more noticeable symptoms that most people are able to identify in themselves without others having to point it out. In this case, the first step to managing this frequent anger is to understand what is triggering it. Is there one person in particular that seems to set off your anger or a particular but recurring situation that seems to set your temper off? Identifying the people or situations that cause you such frequent bouts of anger is essential in order to avoid them.
Little things may upset you to the point that you are in a seemingly constant state of anger. You may exaggerate conditions in your head or to others to justify your angry reaction. It may help to keep a journal on hand to jot down the times when you feel angry during the day. Describe what actually triggered your anger and how you responded. Also include any other feelings that may have led up the anger, such as annoyance or the need to react defensively. This will also help you determine what things are setting off your anger and give you a better idea as to the severity of your anger symptoms.
Physical violence is one of the easier anger symptoms
Physical violence is another one of the easier anger symptoms to notice. Although once in a while something can affect us all to the point that we’d like to hit something or give a good scream, but violence should never be the first reaction that we reach for. Smashing things nearby or attempting to harm others as an immediate response to anger is a severe symptom that definitely should be addressed immediately. If your immediate response to anger is violence then you should definitely consider practicing some anger management techniques.
Speaking of anger management techniques, there are quite a few that you can practice alone on your own before testing them out in a public setting–especially if your anger symptoms are quite severe. The first technique is to remove yourself from the situation and allow yourself to cool off. Say you’re trying to install a stereo system but you just can’t seem to get it to program correctly. Instead of roaring and destroying the system as a response to anger, try to mentally catch yourself before you get to the “explosive stage”. If you can feel the tension building as your frustration mounts, drop what you’re doing and walk into another room. Fix yourself a cup of tea or do something productive or relaxing to give yourself a breather. Once you have gained control of your frustration, try to go back to the task with a positive attitude and give it another try.
The next technique is more of a realization rather than practice, but it can be a world of help when overcoming an anger issue. The key is to admit to yourself that things will not go your way all of the time. Everyone is different and has the right to their own opinion–even if you think they are wrong. Again, try to catch yourself before you get drawn too deeply into your anger and remind yourself that they can think what they want to think, just as you can. In most cases, they are not out to purposely “push your buttons,” but simply voicing their opinion. If they become forceful or you feel as though they are trying to get a rise out of you on purpose, simply walk away until you can calm down.
Counting. Counting is another technique that many of us are taught at a young age to help us overcome intense feelings of disappointment or anger. If you feel as though you are losing the fight against your anger, try counting to ten in your head. This not only gives you something else to concentrate on, but it allows you to think before making any kind of action. This is especially important for someone who tends to react violently or says harsh things in the heat of the moment without thinking beforehand.
If you feel that you simply can’t manage your anger symptoms on your own, you may want to consider seeing a specialist. Don’t be embarrassed about contacting someone for professional help. Millions of people have problems that should be evaluated by a pro, but it’s those of us who are brave enough to seek treatment and move on with our lives that become triumphant.