Your child will be developing anger as they develop; this is just a true fact. For a child to develop properly they must develop anger, however, teaching your child how to handle their anger is just as important to their development.
Found New Knowledge
As a child grows, his understanding of life grows as well. With this new found knowledge, he will learn that something’s in his life cause him to be angry. Of course, while they are small the things that bring on this emotion are few, however, once they begin to learn more they will find many others reasons to become angry.
They Learn By Watching
The way a child learns is by watching their family. If they see a parent become angry over a situation, they will believe this is the time they should become angry even while they are small and may not even realize what caused the parent to become angry.
The way the child will express his anger is also taught by those around the child. If you happen to scream, yell, or throw things will you become angry, your child will do the same thing. Now, when your child is angry and throwing such a fit, you intervene and yell at them for their behavior you are still showing them that this is the correct behavior for angry individuals. It is best when you become angry to learn to calm down, count to ten, and figure out a different way in which to vent your anger especially around the children. This way they will learn how to calming handle angry situations.
If your child becomes angry when they do not get what they want. The best way to handle this situation is to calmly explain the reason in their terms. �No, you cannot have candy now; dinner will be ready in a few minutes.� If this does not deter the angry behavior, try giving them something to do until dinner is ready. You can give them a specific time such as after dinner for a piece of candy and until then you can watch a movie or play with your lego’s. These are just examples, but you see the idea. Try to divert their attention to something positive while they learn to wait for what they want.
Handle With Proper
If they are angry and throwing things around the room, of course, you are not going to get their attention. However, you cannot let this behavior go on. Send them to their room until they are ready to behave in a proper manner. In most cases, young children express anger due to not being able to perform a certain task such as buttoning their shirt, stacking blocks, or other motor skills functions. This is a touchy situation. You should calmly ask if they would like your help, say encouraging words, and only help if and when they are ready. Never move their hands and do it for them, this will cause them to become even more angered they could not do it alone.
If you know the things that cause them to become angry, work with them the next day or so on, not at the time they are angry. You cannot talk to an angry child or adult.