Emotions run amok when hormones go haywire; one of the biggest hurdles that face the life of an individual of teen-age. Anger is one of those emotions that most will experience, even though they themselves often don’t know why they feel angry all of the time. As an adult, teaching them to deal with and diffuse their anger can be a challenging yet necessary task.
Some say that raising a teenager begins the day that child is born. This is, in fact, quite true. Raising a child in an open atmosphere of trust, communication, and love throughout their youth will go a long way in helping that child to know how to handle emotions such as love, anger, frustration, and fear.
After all, anger is not a new emotion that appears the day a child becomes a teen. Situations, however, do change. Children are exposed to diverse elements, behaviors, and cultures when they enter society. Teens especially encounter different situations in environments that consist largely of their peers; individuals who are also experiencing wide flux in their emotional range. As most parents know, kids can be cruel.
One leads to another
Teens are often unforgiving and judgmental towards those who may have a weight problem, issues with acne, a lack of sports finesse or other traits that they deem to be socially unacceptable. For those on the receiving end of this judgment, strong feelings of anger and frustration can be the result. Some who may have been experiencing taunting for a period of years may suddenly have anger unleashed as the normal teenage emotions begin their rollercoaster.
Dealing with this anger can be equally as frustrating for parents and siblings. A person can make the transition from a happy go lucky child to a sullen teen in a very short period of time; seemingly overnight in some cases. The emotions will manifest themselves not to those peers that have caused them, but rather to the people they love the most and with whom they feel most safe. Choosing these people as the outlets for the pain and anger they feel is a natural yet perplexing part of human nature.
Anger is a natural emotion. Understanding the anger can be an important part of dealing with it, for both the teenager and the parent. At no time should a physical manifestation of the anger toward another person be allowed, however. There are a number of methods for diffusing anger that will have no detrimental effect on others while creating a calming and soothing effect on the teen.
Talking a problem out is often a great therapy for some teens; if not with parents, there are many professionals who can be retained to help. It is important that the child learns that anger itself is simply an emotion; their reaction or behavior toward it is their choice.
In addition to understanding their teenage anger, helping a child channel their emotions toward a beneficial project can have excellent results. Building projects that involve hammering, sawing and lifting can expend angry feelings that have pent up inside. Working with crafts, doing yard work or even volunteering for neighborhood charities can help to build and reinforce feelings of self-confidence and self-worth in any individual.
Anger is often the result of feeling that you have no control over a situation. Helping them to realize that while they may not be able to control a situation, they can always control their behavior toward it may instill within them the confidence they need.
Occasional outbursts of teenage anger should be expected. Dealing with them in a healthy and beneficial manner will not only help the teen and their family get through this difficult period but also provide the teen with valuable tools for adulthood, as well.