How often can you control your anger? Everybody gets angry, getting angry is not abnormal. All human beings trigger emotional responses and there is nothing wrong with this. What is not normal though is to bottle up these emotions, primarily anger, until you fill yourself with rage and take it out on the others around you. Being calm is the best way to deal with people and make a good impression.
Count On Yourself
The only person that can calm you down is yourself. If you know that you are going to be involved in a confrontation it is important to calm yourself before taking part. Prior to the confrontation think of how you will react and if that is the best way to react. Letting out your anger by screaming may feel the best, but that does not mean it is the proper way to take hold of the situation. Only when you are calm should you go back to the situation you are in.
Why do we get angry?
Generally when something is not liked the emotional state called anger approaches. But it only catches others attention when it is exaggerated, this is generally bad attention to draw upon yourself and the ones around you. It is not possible to be happy and angry at the same time. Having anger does not generally leave anybody happy. Most of the time anger is what causes relationships, both business and personal, to break apart. Also anger is one of the greatest causes of stress. When you are angry try to think to yourself about if you are being selfish, use this time to think wisely.
Let us go over some basics about anger management. One of the first things you need to do is to be able to immediately find the cause of your anger. Why are you so angry? What are the reasons? What is making your anger grow? If you can answer these questions to yourself during the situation you will then be able to realize if you are overreacting to the situation you are involved in.
Try to avoid unnecessary confrontations and if necessary calm down before having the confrontation. If you can do this you can avoid getting yourself into troubling situations. You should be the person controlling your anger, not your anger controlling you and your actions.
There is only one person whom can you help you with your anger management than yourself. You can read all the books in the world. Visit as many seminars and classes as you can handle. You can spend thousands of dollars on counseling. But if you want to succeed with your anger management you have to have the motivation to do it yourself otherwise all of the above time-spent learning is a waste. Fighting your anger can be very difficult but if you arm yourself with the tools and knowledge necessary it can make your anger management much easier and more successful. There are many resources on the Internet where you can access information about anger management for free.